A Common Bond

The Ninth Annual Summer Ex-JW Meetup in London

There is a summer meetup in London being planned on facebook. The link is below and a short description is listed here.

Saturday, August 27 at 2 PM
The Riverside Bar Vauxhall
Hamilton House
5 St George’s Wharf
London, United Kingdom

https://www.facebook.com/events/1234122709973634/

It's here again! Every Summer we have a big meetup at the Riverside pub in Vauxhall, London. And these events get huge! So make sure you are there!

This year will be no different.... Earlier in the day if you want to join Ste and the gang, there will be a British Museum tour which is hugely popular and definitely worth attending. That usually finishes around 12pm or just after....

Then meet us in the pub after. The pub serves food all day and night, and is reasonably priced for London. Drinks are also usual London prices.

There is a beautiful view of the river and the London skyline. If it's a sunny day, we'll sit outside and enjoy the sights.... If it's not sunny, it's pretty darn cosy inside too..... :-)

Previous years we've had as many as 80 in attendance and people come from all over the world to attend.

I'm also going to make this open to ex Muslims, ex Mormons, ex Brethren, ex cult members and others. But it will probably be a lot more exJWs.

Partners welcome, or if you need to bring a friend, that is also cool. Parents who have children in the religion who want to come, feel free too. Over 18's only.

We have one rule only in the exJW meetup group: NO preaching! lol I'm sure we can understand that one! So that means if you have a new religion, great for you, but don't use our event to try to convert people. And if you are now an atheist, great, but don't use our event to get people to think like you. Other than that, enjoy yourself!

3rd Annual Midwest Aposta-Fest

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Mark your calendars all you terribly wonderful heathens! The 3rd Annual Midwest Aposta-Fest will be here before you know it! 

Saturday, August 6, 2016 promises to hold within it moments to be enjoyed by all who gather with us outside of Indianapolis. Experience has shown that each and every Apostate/ex-JW meetup has its own flavor. I am certain each one is great in its own right. At these events we truly feel a sense of family that many of us are missing and long for.

Come join us in all our glorious bad assocation! Ethan and I would like to invite everyone with a teeny tiny bit more urgency this year then perhaps even the 2 previous years.

At the first Annual Aposta-Fest I drove 5 hours and met my Ethan. Meeting the Mr. Anondude and the rest of the Amazing Apostates was all I had hoped for.....what a sweet surprise when I discovered Mr. Anondude was my soulmate!

At the second Annual Aposta-Fest he got down on one knee.....

So, it seems natural that the arrival of the third Annual Aposta-Fest would bring with it further devolpments in the relationship of your Hosts!

Would you honor us with your presence this year as two apostates join together as one?

P.S. This was my bashful, backhanded way of announcing our wedding. I'm going to marry Anondude! ♥

Independence Day Ex-JW BBQs

Celebrate your freedom from the JWs on the 4th of July in Tyler, Texas or in Sinking Spring, Pennsylvania. If the technology cooperates the two group are going to connect with each other so you will be able to see many more happy smiling faces of Ex-JWs. I promise there will be no gnashing of teeth. Both BBQs are GLBT friendly. The events are being planned on facebook with links to the groups below.

Aposta Party BBQ, Tyler, Texas

BYOB. Side dishes welcome. SO, children, friends and canines welcome. Wading pool for cooling off. We will be cooking Brisket but if something else is preferred, bring it and we will throw it on the BBQ. Can't wait to meet more of my Aposta Family!! Also planning on connecting up with Jim Moon's Independence Day BBQ to say Hi!!! Bring lawn chairs please.

Jim's Annual 4th Of July BBQ For Ex-Jehovah's Witnesses

I was baptized as one of Jehovah's Witnesses on July 4th, 1975. Each year, as my way of celebrating my independence from the JWs, I hold a backyard barbecue at my house in rural eastern Pennsylvania (about 70 miles NW of Philadelphia). I've been doing this for several years and each year it keeps getting larger and larger. Last year, we had close to 100 people. That's OK -- we have a big house and an acre in the back yard. We have parking enough for quite a few cars. We almost ran out of places to park last year, but there's plenty of on-street parking about a block away, and getting a volunteer to shuttle them to our house won't be a problem.

You're most welcome to bring something to the BBQ, but it's not necessary. If you do plan to bring something, I'd suggest posting what you're going to bring below so we don't have too many people bringing the same thing. Please keep in mind that your hosts (and a few of the guests) are in recovery, so please don't get carried away with the alcoholic beverages, and -- sorry -- this area of Pennsylvania is intolerant of illegal substances, so please keep those at home. We'd like the BBQ to go on for years to come and don't want it getting so rowdy clips of it show up on "Worlds Dumbest."

Come celebrate my freedom from the Witnesses since 1980, and bring your friends! Who knows? Maybe some day the BBQ will get so big we'll have to rent out Yankee Stadium!

The Story of God starring Morgan Freeman

Having been in a religion where they say there is only one true god, it is interesting to see such a broad range of peoples views of who is god.

Check out the trailer below, and if it interests you tune into the National Geographic channel on Sunday, April 3, at 9/8 Central.

2nd Annual Mid-West Aposta-Fest!, Fairland, IN

August 1, 2015
The 2014 Aposta-Fest was completely amazing! It was so wonderful getting together with so many Apostates and making new friends, and meeting old friends in-person for the first time! The food was also quite delicious and boy did we have a lot of it to share! The 2014 Aposta-Fest was also quite special for me because I got to meet Brandy for the first time, and now I'm in an awesome relationship! So you never know what you'll find if you decide to come. All are welcome to come join in the festivities, so tell your Aposta-pals!! 

We can all congregate as evil Apostate heathens gathered for licentious revelries against Jehovah! Bwa ha ha ha ha! <lightning crackles ominously in the background>

-Ahem- Anyway...

It's pitch-in style so if you can bring a small dish that would be great, but it isn't a requirement! Apostates don't often believe in compulsory service after leaving a cult! Ideally (weather-permitting) it will be in my back-yard, otherwise we'll bring it indoors. There is affordable lodging close-by near Indianapolis, but if you can't afford it I will try to accommodate a few houseguests! (Limited space available though, so first-come first-serve) 

Let's make the 2015 Mid-West Aposta-Fest an even BIGGER... BETTER... more Apostate-ier than EVER!

Gateway To Reason, St. Louis, MO

July 31, 2015 to August 2, 2015
When we stand together at events like this it gives a voice to people like us to the public and encourages others to stand up for who they are.We all have different stories and different views on just about almost everything. That is what makes atheist and non-believers so exciting is that we don't have a dogma to guide us but our own logic and reason. and to use that to see if it stands scrutiny and discussion to make us better people in the end.  When we work together we can all become the Gateway to Reason!

Jim's Annual 4th of July BBQ for ex-Jehovah's Witnesses

2014 BBQ Group Photo

One of the original founders of ACB, Jim Moon, has a yearly 4th of July BBQ to celebrate his independence from he JW religion. He has arranged a facebook group to coordinate this BBQ located in Reading, PA. The link to the facebook group is below.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/xjwbbq/

I was baptized as one of Jehovah's Witnesses on July 4th, 1975. Each year, as my way of celebrating my independence from the JWs, I hold a backyard barbecue at my house in rural eastern Pennsylvania (about 70 miles NW of Philadelphia). I've been doing this for several years and each year it keeps getting larger and larger. Last year, we had close to 100 people. That's OK -- we have a big house and an acre in the back yard. We have parking enough for quite a few cars. We almost ran out of places to park last year, but there's plenty of on-street parking about a block away, and getting a volunteer to shuttle them to our house won't be a problem.
A few weeks before the event, once you've indicated you want to come, I'll send you directions to the house, or how to program your GPS. If you need directions sooner than that, PM me and I'll send them to you right away. A lot of you have been here before and already know the way.
You're most welcome to bring something to the BBQ, but it's not necessary. If you do plan to bring something, I'd suggest posting what you're going to bring below so we don't have too many people bringing the same thing. Please keep in mind that your hosts (and a few of the guests) are in recovery, so please don't get carried away with the alcoholic beverages, and -- sorry -- this area of Pennsylvania is intolerant of illegal substances, so please keep those at home. We'd like the BBQ to go on for years to come and don't want it getting so rowdy clips of it show up on "Worlds Dumbest."
The next day after the BBQ, we traditionally take a caravan of people to Shady Maple Smorgasbord in East Earl, PA (Google it -- it's incredible!) We have room in the attic for a few overnight guests. Bring a sleeping bag. We've also had people pitch a tent in our back yard. Plenty of room for that, too.
If you'd rather not go "native" here are a couple of links that you may find helpful:
Nearby Berks County Hotels/Motels: http://www.readingberkspa.com/hotels-motels-reading.html
Nearby Northern Lancaster County Hotels/Motels:
http://www.yellowpages.com/adamstown-pa/motels
Nearby Campgrounds: http://www.berkscountyweb.com/BerksCampsites.htm
If you're flying in, I recommend comparing airfares between Philadelphia (PHL), Harrisburg PA (MDT), and Lehigh Valley (ABE) Airports. I personally always fly in/out of Harrisburg. It's closer, quieter, and less hustle & bustle, although lately Lehigh Valley's been offering better fares and it's about the same distance, just a different direction.
Come celebrate my freedom from the Witnesses since 1980, and bring your friends! Who knows? Maybe some day the BBQ will get so big we'll have to rent out Yankee Stadium!

7th Annual ex-JW Christmas Dinner

Saturday, December 6at 6:00pm in UTC
The Riverside
Hamilton House, 5 St George’s Wharf, London SW8 2LE, United Kingdom

It's time to choose your meals for the xJW Xmas dinner and leave a deposit. The menu is here: https://www.dropbox.com/s/ysbeaa7i34enmai/ChristmasMenu2014.pdf?dl=0

Please send your meal choice and PayPal deposit of £10 to xjwmeetup@hotmail.com

I'll need these by at least the beginning of next week (24th of November)

I look forward to seeing old faces and meeting new ones for the annual festive fun!

Ste xx

Full details can be found at the facebook event page.

Truth Be Told Screening, Alton, IL

See the facebook page for the most up to date information.

November 15, 2014 at 4:00pm

Sponsored By: Life After Watchtower: 

 

Ex-JWs in Greater St. Louis, MO Area

“TRUTH BE TOLD is a feature documentary film about growing up in the Jehovah’s Witnesses religion. The title refers to the Jehovah’s Witnesses’ perception that their beliefs are ‘the truth’.

In this film, former Jehovah’s Witnesses candidly discuss the spiritual, emotional and psychological harm inflicted by the religion. They reveal experiences including the effects of proselytizing door-to-door, shunning non-observant family and friends, suspension of critical thinking, suffering the discouragement of pursuing dreams like gaining a higher education, and missing other societal holidays and customs.

Ultimately the film reveals why Jehovah’s Witnesses have the lowest retention rate of any religion with only 37% of those raised as Jehovah’s Witnesses continuing their affiliation with the religion.

The abuses explored in TRUTH BE TOLD are part of a wider examination into the culture of undue influence within the Jehovah’s Witnesses religion that continues to violate the basic human rights of members and their families worldwide. “

European LGBT JW Support Group - Winter 2014/15 Meet Up

For the most updated information please check the facebook event page. 

Hi everyone,

I thought it would be good to organise a winter meet up with the LGBT JW Support group as we didn't have too many at Pride in June, I'm pumped up after the gigantic super Aposta-Convention that we had on the 23rd of August 2014, and I haven't seen a lot of you hilarious people for ages.

Tentative date is the 8th of November, but it could well be in January, as I'll be busy organising the Christmas do in November.

I'm just copying and pasting much of this from the last bowling meetup that we had. I think they were good venues, but if you have any other ideas, please suggest away.


For those who feel shy or embarrassed to come on their own ... please, don't!!! Everybody is very welcoming.

This event page will be updated the closer we get to the date ... so, please, keep an eye on it for our final agenda.

We are discussing the sort of activities we could do. If you know a great venue, please, feel free to make any recommendations on the event's page. Your help is greatly appreciated.

We are very much looking forward to seeing you soon!!!

Agenda (in progress):

12h30: Meet @ Hamilton Hall (Wetherspoon) for a drink 
http://www.jdwetherspoon.co.uk/home/pubs/hamilton-hall

13h00: Have a light lunch @ Spittafield

http://www.spitalfields.co.uk/restaurants.php

17h00: Bowling 
http://www.allstarlanes.co.uk/venues/brick-lane

For those who would like to stay around in the evening, we could meet up for dinner and go out clubbing.

Jim's Annual 4th of July BBQ for ex-Jehovah's Witnesses

July 4th, 2013

One of the original founders of ACB, Jim Moon, has a yearly 4th of July BBQ to celebrate his independence from he JW religion. He has arranged a facebook group to coordinate this BBQ located in Reading, PA. The link to the facebook group is below.

Jim's Annual 4th of July BBQ for ex-Jehovah's Witnesses

I was baptized as one of Jehovah's Witnesses on July 4th, 1975. Each year, as my way of celebrating my independence from the JWs, I hold a backyard barbecue at my house in rural eastern Pennsylvania (about 70 miles NW of Philadelphia). I've been doing this for several years and each year it keeps getting larger and larger. Last year, we had close to 100 people. That's OK -- we have a big house and an acre in the back yard. We have parking enough for quite a few cars. We almost ran out of places to park last year, but there's plenty of on-street parking about a block away, and getting a volunteer to shuttle them to our house won't be a problem. A few weeks before the event, once you've indicated you want to come, I'll send you directions to the house, or how to program your GPS. If you need directions sooner than that, PM me and I'll send them to you right away. A lot of you have been here before and already know the way.You're most welcome to bring something to the BBQ, but it's not necessary. If you do plan to bring something, I'd suggest posting what you're going to bring below so we don't have too many people bringing the same thing. Please keep in mind that your hosts (and a few of the guests) are in recovery, so please don't get carried away with the alcoholic beverages, and -- sorry -- this area of Pennsylvania is intolerant of illegal substances, so please keep those at home. We'd like the BBQ to go on for years to come and don't want it getting so rowdy clips of it show up on "Worlds Dumbest."

The next day after the BBQ, we traditionally take a caravan of people to Shady Maple Smorgasbord in East Earl, PA (Google it -- it's incredible!) We have room in the attic for a few overnight guests. Bring a sleeping bag. We've also had people pitch a tent in our back yard. Plenty of room for that, too.If you'd rather not go "native" here are a couple of links that you may find helpful:

Nearby Berks County Hotels/Motels:
http://www.readingberkspa.com/hotels-motels-reading.html
Nearby Northern Lancaster County Hotels/Motels:
http://www.yellowpages.com/adamstown-pa/motels
Nearby Campgrounds:
http://www.berkscountyweb.com/BerksCampsites.htm

If you're flying in, I recommend comparing airfares between Philadelphia (PHL), Harrisburg PA (MDT), and Lehigh Valley (ABE) Airports. I personally always fly in/out of Harrisburg. It's closer, quieter, and less hustle & bustle, although lately Lehigh Valley's been offering better fares and it's about the same distance, just a different direction.

Come celebrate my freedom from the Witnesses since 1980, and bring your friends! Who knows? Maybe some day the BBQ will get so big we'll have to rent out Yankee Stadium!

LGBT JW Support at London Pride

European LGBT JW Support Group @ Pride in London 2014

Saturday, June 28at 12:00pm in UTC+01

Many of you have expressed the desire to organise a meet up again with the group members. 
How about meeting at Pride in London like we did the first time we organised a meet up?
Looking very much forward to seeing you there.

For more information about Pride in London, visit the official website: http://prideinlondon.org/

The theme of this year's pride is "Freedom to ...." It might be a great opportunity for you to express what freedom means to you by creating your own T-shirt or banner.

Truth Be Told Screening Memorial Night

Most of the general public have no idea what's behind the Jehovah's Witness organization. Would you like to learn? Gregorio Smith's film, 'Truth Be Told' is an excellent medium to do this. The screenings are going to be held the same night as the Jehovah's Witness ritual celebration of the Memorial of Jesus Christ's death. The producers of 'Truth Be Told' warmly invite you, your family, and your friends to our counter programming event(s). The events will be held in the following cities on the same night: 

TRUTH BE TOLD in NEW YORK CITY
Monday, April 14 7:30PM - 9:21PM
AMC Loews Village 7 66 3rd Ave., New York, NY, 10003
Reserve seats here: http://www.tugg.com/events/7892

TRUTH BE TOLD in MIAMI, FL
Monday, April 14 7:30PM - 9:21PM
AMC Sunset Place 24 5701 Sunset Drive, South Miami, FL 33143
Link to reserve tickets: http://www.tugg.com/events/7891

TRUTH BE TOLD in CLEVELAND, OHIO
Monday, April 14 7:30PM - 9:21PM
Cleveland Cinemas Capitol Theatre
1390 West 65th Street, Cleveland, OH, 44102
Link to reserve tickets: http://www.tugg.com/events/8109

A minimum number a seats for all events must be reserved by 4/7/14. Please secure your seats at your earliest convenience and encourage others to do the same.

Also, please share ticketing link(s) when forwarding information. Visitwww.hereliesthetruth.com for screening information and additional content.

Downloadable flyer PDFs available under MEDIA GALLERY.

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Nathan's Pain: Sometimes It Gets Better, But Not Without Loss

There was an inspiring story on the Huffington Post about Nathan Belyeu. At the age of 23 his Jehovah Witness parents shunned him because he was gay. His parents denied him access to his medication and tried to take away his car. Follow the link below to read the rest of the story.

Nathan's Pain: Sometimes It Gets Better, But Not Without Loss

"Being raised as one of Jehovah's Witnesses has had, and continues to have, a profound impact on my life. It's more than just a few seemingly odd habits and activities such as not recognizing Christmas," Nathan said. "It is really a worldview and a lifestyle."

"In any case, I was baptized at age 13, long before I could understand who I was, who I would become as an adult, and all the risks I was taking by saying I would live my life by the rules they set forth," Nathan confided. 

"I did understand very clearly though, that if I ever went against the way I was raised, if I ever did anything that I wasn't supposed to do, I would lose everything and everyone, my family, my community, all my friends." 

 

New Orleans Photos

The photos from the New Orleans conference can be found by clicking here. It was a small group this year but we still had fun. We went all over the french quarter, had beignets at Cafe Du Monde, stopped in voodoo shops, ate great food in the warehouse district, went to the Audubon Aquarium, rode a ferry across the Mississippi river, and had drinks on Bourbon Street including at a bar that was an old carrousel.

Check out the photos to see what you missed and start saving your money for the conference in 2014. Details to follow. 

Truth Be Told - California Showings

Gregorio Smith is touring the West Coast with showings of Truth Be Told. If enough people register there will be showings in San Francisco (Deadline August 29, 2013) and San Diego (Deadline September 3, 2013). Check out the Tugg event page for more details.

After the showings Gergorio will answer questions from the audience. The San Francisco event will also feature Scott Terry, author of “Cowboys, Armageddon, and The Truth: How a Gay Child Was Saved from Religion” and Candace Conti who successfully sued the Jehovah’s Witnesses organization for allowing an adult member of a Fremont, CA congregation to repeatedly molest her when she was a child.

"TRUTH BE TOLD lifts the veil on the seemingly benign Jehovah's Witnesses religion to expose a profit-driven, isolationist culture characterized by fear, totalitarian corporate leadership, intellectual & spiritual intimidation, suspension of critical thinking, failed prophecies, doctrinal inconsistency and improper handling of physical and sexual abuse allegations within the church.
See former Jehovah's Witnesses candidly discuss growing up inside the religion. They reveal experiences including the effects of proselytizing door-to-door, shunning non-observant family and friends, suffering the discouragement of pursuing dreams like gaining a higher education, missing other societal holidays and customs. And more...

EX-JDUB Meetup, Fayetteville, NC

There is a group of Ex-Witnesses getting together on Friday August 23, 2013 at 8:00pm in Fayetteville, North Carolina. Check out the facebook link for more information.

An opportunity for fellow ex J-dub's to gather together for socializing and reminiscing.

 

Atlanta ACB Get-Together

The Atlanta chapter of ACB is getting together Saturday, July 27, 2013 at 6:00pm. Here is a link to the facebook page and a description of the event is included below.

Hi all, it's been a long time since we all got together.  We will have a visitor from NC, Jimmy, who will be here, and is looking forward to meeting everyone.  Also, there have been a number of new xjws in the Atlanta area who have made contact recently, and hopefully some of them will be able to join us.  Please share with anyone that I've missed.  The invite will also be advertised on the various xjw groups, so hopefully we can expect a good crowd!  Looking forward to seeing everybody!

 

New Orleans Meetup - 2013

August 29 – September 2 (Labor Day/Southern Decadence Weekend) Last year was the first year that we that had to cancel a conference due to a hurricane.This year we are playing the odds and giving New Orleans have one more shot. So we are welcoming everyone back to NOLA for the 2013 ACB Meetup.  We also will have a contingency plan in place should there be another hurricane bearing down on New Orleans on Labor Day weekend.

We are planning a picnic on Saturday at Audubon Park. Look for the banner from the Houston Conference. After the picnic you can explore the city on your own or form an impromptu group. Later that evening there will be a group heading down to the French Quarter for Southern Decadence. On Sunday we will meet in smaller groups for lunch and dinner. We will also take a tour of the city and probably return to the French Quarter for another round of Southern Decadence.

We are also planning a few new things this year including a souvenir exchange, photo contest, and a short "it gets better" video. All of the events are optional but I think they could be fun.

For the souvenir exchange bring something unique, less than $20 value, that represents the city you came from. It could be a pin, a book, a box of candy, something that represents you or your hometown. At the end of the weekend anyone who want to participate will get together and exchange their souvenirs.

For the photo contest there will be two categories. One for the best shot of New Orleans and best shot of a person at the conference. The winners will receive a free dinner while in New Orleans. If they have to leave early then we will send them a $25 gift card through the mail. The photos can be taken using anything: phone, camera, iPod, etc. Then upload them to the Facebook page for the meetup. At the end of the weekend the photo with the most likes in each category will be the winner. For the best shot of a person make sure they know that their picture is being taken and that you plan to upload it to Facebook. If someone is uncomfortable or does not want their picture taken please do not force the issue. Many time at the meetups there are people who have not told their families about their sexuality please respect that. We want everyone to be comfortable and enjoy themselves.

For the "it gets better" video I am planning on using my camera to get short clips of people saying how their life is better now that they are free from the religion. We can get these clips from all over New Orleans. I hope that this will show people who are afraid to leave the we are not weeping or gnashing our teeth and that there is life after the JWs.

Since this is happening during a very large gay event you should book you plane tickets and hotel soon. As of the beginning of April round trip air fare from Chicago to New Orleans was approximately $375-$400. Hotel rooms for the weekend were available from $100 and up per night depending on amenities. Use your favorite travel search engine, I prefer Kayak, and set up an alert to email you daily or weekly with travel deals.

We recommend staying in the Garden District near St. Charles Avenue. But you could also stay in the Central Business District or the French Quarter. However due to Southern Decadence the longer you wait to book a hotel, especially near the French Quarter, the more expensive your rooms will be.

The St. Charles Streetcar line runs 24/7 every 10 minutes during the day and every 30 minutes in the early morning hours. This streetcar line runs from Audubon Park to the edge of the French Quarter. Single rides are $1.25 and a 3-day unlimited Jazzy pass is $9. There are also plenty of taxis available.

Labor Day weekend is also Southern Decadence in New Orleans. According to

http://www.southerndecadence.net/:

“Southern Decadence started forty-one years ago as a simple going-away party. As a top gay Labor Day Weekend destination, it has evolved into one of our world’s major annual events. One of the largest annual celebrations and festivals in New Orleans, it has become known as the “Gay Mardi Gras.” People begin to arrive on the Wednesday before Labor Day, and generally don’t even think about stopping or going home until the following Tuesday. With over 100,000 gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender participants, and an economic impact estimated to be in excess of $125 million, the city has recognized the festival’s importance with an Official Proclamation to welcome the event.”

From nature to parties there should be something in New Orleans for everyone. I hope to see everyone there.